I just knew I wanted to go to the Olympic Games. In reflection, I would say that I was trying to prove something to myself. I think that ultimately, I was trying to prove that I was enough.
It was great to be a guest on Jeff Bullas’ podcast recently.
Jeff is an online entrepreneur, influencer, author and speaker on all things digital. He has been featured on Forbes as a “Top 20 Influencer of Chief Marketing Officers” and ranked #1 Global “Digital Marketing Influencer”. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Entrepreneur, Inc., and Huffington Post. Having built a social media tribe of over 700k followers, he now advises startups on marketing and influencer strategy.
Jeff and I met back in my Bluewire Media marketing days and have become great friends, sharing highs and lows of our journeys both personally and professionally.
In this interview we cover a bit of ground:
The three questions that have guided my professional journey.
Jack Ferguson (entrepreneur, host of The Push business podcast) and I caught up recently.
It became clear very quickly that we were in similar situations. Having both gone through big challenges and change in our businesses, and neither of us really knowing what the next step is, it seemed like a good idea to explore this on Jack’s podcast.
In this episode we speak about:
How and why I’m working at decoupling my identity
What was waking me up in the middle of the night.
What recently happened to Jack that has him in a tailspin.
Choosing to hit publish on vulnerable content.
Becoming more of who I am.
Trying not to mentally fast forward through crappy times.
How to do the work of defining values to use them to navigate uncertainty.
It’s cool to be able to share this kind of thing publicly, so thanks to Jack for initiating it. You can find him on LinkedIn.
“Out of Vision (or Purpose), Core Values and Big Hairy Audacious Goals, the most important to great, enduring organizations are its Core Values… Executives spend too much time drafting, wordsmithing, and redrafting vision statements, mission statements, values statements, purpose, statements, aspiration statements, and so on. They spend nowhere near enough time trying to align organizations with the values and visions already in place.”
Despite the fact that organisational values are virtually ubiquitous, we don’t see a corollary explosion in great businesses. From public values failures (like the banking sector here in Australia) to private conversations, implementation of values desperately needs a new approach.
The Current Gap:
With that as context and assuming an organisation has defined its own values, the opportunity sits with understanding how an individual’s values specifically overlap with the organisation values.
How do we build a shared mental model of values that can drive decision making and actions of a whole team of individuals with their own value sets?
And how can we do that if individuals don’t even know their own values?
Values Based Decision Making needs to be an approach that can be both top-down (awareness and development of organisational values) and bottom-up (awareness and development of individuals’ values).
According to Gallup, 87% of employees are not engaged in their work. And engagement is crucial to high performing teams. (from the outcomes above)
In a world where speed, interdependence and uncertainty are the norm, values need to be considered in every decision and reinforced with action. And they need to be able to match the speed of change.
There is no shortage of values failures. We all have values already. Some people are aware of them, others aren’t and most don’t know how to put them into practice. (Think back – Enron had values too.) It is not enough just to have values, they must be put into action.
The Paradox of Choice means there have never been so many choices available and adding values to filter decision making helps to distinguish signal from noise.
The adoption of Agile across all types of teams and organisations requires distributed and devolved decision making. Values need to contribute a framework to the quality and consistency of those decisions.
Data has transformed the way we make decisions. Values bring a human and ethical layer to ensure the data isn’t followed blindly. (A really interesting take on this in the tech sphere: Working Ethically At Speed.)
The pursuit of goals on their own without appreciation and connection is a recipe for suffering.
With so many external comparison points, we need an internal anchor or definition of success. Values help us create an internal locus of control.
A quick recap: What are Values?
Values are not just words, values are a way of being. They are the person, team or organisation we are when we are being our best.
For instance, as individuals there is a huge difference between:
getting married vs being loving every day.
running a marathon vs living a healthy life.
graduating with a PHD or an MBA vs a lifelong pursuit of learning.
The fun part is when you combine both – you get married and you’re in a loving relationship, it’s running a marathon and maintaining a healthy lifestyle, it’s graduating with a PHD because you love learning.
What is Values Based Decision Making?
We are wired NOT to like doing hard things. Our brains don’t like adversity, challenge, conflict. We don’t like pain.
A brief analogy:
If I was to cover the floor in broken glass and asked you to walk across it bare footed, you’d most likely think I was mad.
If I was then to say that if you walk across the glass, I have the power to make all of your and your loved ones’ dreams come true and remove all suffering from the rest of your lives… Well, typically the response is different.
What that shows is that we are terrible at suffering meaningless pain. BUT, if we feel the pain is in the service of what is most important to us, then we will not just endure, but embrace great hardship.
Values Based Decision Making works to answer 4 questions:
What are the values you hold and aspire to live up to?
Who is most important to you?
What is most important to you?
What you do when you are at your best?
By defining, then organising those answers, we can make decisions and drive action in the service of values and what holds the most meaning for us.
What Values Based Decision Making is not:
It is not an answer. It’s an iterative process and, frankly, the work is never done. It starts with self-awareness at an individual level (and shared awareness for teams) and then migrates to action. And action is everything.
It is not about adding anything new. Values Based Decision Making is about minimum effective dose. Remove the unimportant and reconnect with what is most important.
It isn’t necessarily going to make life easier. In fact, life and decisions may become more difficult once you articulate your values. Living up to your values will present new challenges – mentally, emotionally and behaviourally – every day. But using your values to guide your decisions will make life so much more purposeful and meaningful, however you define that for yourself.
The Process of Values Based Decision Making:
Once Values are understood conceptually, here are two approaches – one for individuals and one for teams.
What are your values?
Who is most important to you?
What is most important to you?
What do you do when you are at your best?
Make sure that your current goals are in the service of your values.
Build an action plan to bring your values to life through habits and routines.
Put your values into practice.
Accelerate the development of values and practices through a coaching process.
For teams and organisations:
Build self-awareness for the individuals within the team (as above).
Build a shared vision and shared awareness for the team or organisation as a whole.
Create a framework of expected team behaviours to help translate values into actions.
Build and certify the capacity of leaders and key people within an organisation to continue to coach existing and new team members.
Embed values and bring them to life throughout the organisation from job ads and performance management to product design, communication rhythms and marketing.
If you, your team or your organisation is struggling to define values or to translate them into decision making and action at scale, or if you are working to innovate in those areas, I would love to talk more with you about your approaches and attempts.
And thank you to Jonah, Alix, James, Phoebe, Lucy and Adam for helping to shape these ideas.